Hi, this blog post finds you with me feeling very upset and emotional given the harmful actions of others.
Right, let me try and construct this right. As many of you know I am nearly 18 months into my recovery. The last few months have seen me find solace with the fellowship of Narcotics Anonymous. I love my program and it keeps me in recovery.
A fellow member of NA has de-friended me and claimed to want to have nothing to do with me and not talk to me as I have 'been seen to' break the traditions of NA! I have not! I know how these things work and am sure my name is now shit and being slagged off far and wide and this hurts me as I only ever have the best of intentions and would never hurt a soul. Yet the few involved in falseley slanderring my name right now are acting in a vile and spiteful manner in an act of insecure jealously! I don't wish to allow my ego to take over but the facts are;
- I have a great flat
- I have a great family life
- I have a loving relationship in my life
- I have written, published and sold 3 books
- I am admired as such and in talks to do many great talks and media appearances
- I have an upcoming interview for a great job in the substance misuse sector
- I am working toward a great career within the substance misuse field, which WILL happen soon enough
- I have written 3 mini training programs and worksheets which are rolled out successfully and facilitated by me to service users.
- I am near on 18 months into my recovery
The fact is it is easy to be envy-us of all the above if you are deep routed in resentments and insecurities and these sorts of thoughts can lead to spiteful behaviors.
The accusation arises from the fact that I have recently written a book 'one foot in front of the other'. In the book there is a section which list some of the catchphrases that do the round in recovery. At no point do I mention the fellowships or NA or services for that matter, how can any such setup claim ownership of little phases that PEOPLE say. The section is below so make up your own mind, and please if you see the fictional part where I break the tradition point it out to the blind me!
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There are a lot of addiction and recovery catchphrases; in this
chapter I will list some of them.
One step at a time
It’s an inside job
Just keep coming
Work the steps
Fake it till you make it
One day at a time
You’re in the right place
It’s a journey, not a destination
Poor me, poor me, pour me another drink
Live in the NOW
No pain, no gain
Keep the plug in the jug
It takes time
90 meetings in 90 days
You are not alone
Count your blessings
Change is a process, not an event
It's a marathon, not a sprint
Keep it simple stupid
Addiction requires lies, recovery requires honesty. You can't save
your face and your arse at the same time
Addiction is suicide by installments
It's not what you know about recovery that keeps you sober, it's
what you do about recovery that keep you sober.
Just say no
Listen to learn, learn to listen
When something bad happens in life you have three choices: you can
let it define you, let it destroy you or you can let it strengthen you
By the grace of my higher power
If it’s not in your hula hoop then it's none of your business
This too shall pass
Recovery will be a road of discovery for me
You’re worth it
It works if you work it so work it your worth it!
The elevators broken take the stairs.
A new life for a old yin
Progress, not perfection
Except the things you can't change
Hugs not drugs
Pass it on
An addict alone is in bad company
One drink is too many and a thousand not enough
We will love you until you love yourself
One promise, many gifts
One moment at a time
To thine own self be true
Easy does it
Change your thoughts, to change your actions, to change your life
Time to grow up
Stop running
H.A.L.T. Don't get too hungry, angry, lonely or tired
7 Days without a meeting makes one weak
If there's a light at the end of the tunnel, stop ordering more
tunnel
In a society that profits from your self doubt, liking yourself is
a revolutionary act
Let in the good, block out the bad
Think! Think! Think!
Live & let live!
Walking the bridge to normal living
Keep doing the right thing, and the right things will happen
Name it, claim it and dump it
Not my circus, not my monkey
Do the action and the attitude will follow
It's not the place you're at. It's where you're at in the place
Don't leave before the miracle happens
I’m now living, instead of just existing
If you get lost, you can find us on the steps
Baby steps
Feelings are not facts
Let go and let God
If you do what you always do, you will get what you always got
Don’t pole volt over an ant hill
Play the tape through
What you throw out comes back to you!
Stick with the winners, win with the stickers
NUTS – Not using the steps
Keep coming back
Just for today
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